Dear Bickering Parents

A sincere message to real or fictional parents.

It doesn’t matter who’s right or wrong if the whole house ends up burning to the ground. Talk out the fault you have with the co-parent WITH that co-parent in a godly way. Bear good fruit to that person and focus on building up, not tearing each other down. Don’t vent to your children, argue in front of them, or make them feel like they need to fix it. They don’t need to know how you guys handle it. They just need to trust that you guys, who they love, will work it out.

Don’t get me wrong. Arguments happen. The problem isn’t in their occurrence, it’s in the way they’re handled (Google Dr. Gottman’s Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse). Great relationships aren’t the ones with couples that don’t fight. They’re the ones that stretch, wade, float, plunge, and propel through the deep and shallow ends. Show your children that.

5 comments on “Dear Bickering Parents

  1. […] Are you bearing good fruit? Don’t be so quick to answer that. I’m not asking if all’s well in life or if you did your good deed of the day. I’m asking if you’ve shown love, patience, joy, peace, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (Galatians 5:22-23), even when it’s inconvenient for you? I’m talking on the level of when you find out someone molested your child or parent. That level. Or when another driver cuts in front of you. Or when you’re cheated out of happiness and success. Again, what fruit are you bearing? […]


  2. Good advice to parents Isabelle. Bravo!

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  3. 👏👏👏! So totally true and instructive for parents👍 We should help them as much as we can to cope with parenthood💖🌞

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